54 it's been nice knowin ya.......
March 31, 1959 -- 55 years ago I was born. Celebrated my birthday yesterday with family. My sister-in-law took me out to eat at a mexican restaurant in claremore. (did you know that mexican was probably my favorite food of all). While dining the daughter texted me and told me they were coming out to fish. i thought that was a good idea cause i would get to see the grandsons. well later in the afternoon she texted me and told me they would be bringing out pizza. Cool - Ritzywife doesn't have to cook on her birthday ;-)
Well they arrive and no pizza, she tells me the son is bringing it so i thought - OK......well when they arrived they let the two kids loose and here they came running as fast as those little short legs would carry them to ni-maw. I loved it. We stayed outside and enjoyed the warm evening watching the boys run all over the yard, play with their toys and get in the sandbox. Also watched Ritzy grill our supper...He did an excellent job. We had steaks, veggies, salad, and cookies, cookie cake and Klondike bars. YUMMY!!!! Those steaks were heavenly. We all ate till we were very satisfied. Those two little ones have expensive taste. They love steak!!!!
We all enjoyed the warm evening, shooting each other with nerf guns and dodging the boys shots. It was one of the best birthdays Ritzywife has ever had. We gave the boys their bath and before we knew it it was time for them to go home. We said our goodbyes and came inside. A wonderful end to a wonderful day!
Ritzy is taking me out to eat this friday afternoon. Ritzywife is one blessed woman!!!
I have just finished reading "ONE THOUSAND GIFTS" by Ann Voskamp. It shows me there is always something good to look for in our lives and circumstances. A life changing book if we will let it be. I am trying it anyways. Writing down anything and everything I am thankful for or see as a "gift" from God. It doesn't necessarily have to appear good to the "eye" to be considered "good" . Truths I have heard all my life, but until I see it in action - it means nothing.
Well, I want it to mean something in Ritzywife's life. I want people to look at my life and wonder "what's up with her & why is she so happy".......
With that Ritzywife is out........................................................
54 it's been nice knowin ya.......
Wow, I never thought I would be writing such a post. I have learned one of the hardest parts of being a grandparent---saying NO and not feeling guilty about it.....
I guess it has been building for a while now and I just put it off. Every Wednesday I would have to leave the house by 7:15 (which meant getting up at 6:15) and I would not return home til 4:30-5:00pm. I then would have to be at church at 6:00 and not get home until 7:30 - 8:00pm. Made for a L O N G day. It got so I could not get to sleep on the night before because I was anticipating having to get up so early for such a long day. I would get 4-5 hours of sleep and expect that to get me thru the next day. This past wednesday I was exhausted. Well I found out earlier in the week that the boy's other nana was going to be gone so I assumed I was going to have to take up the slack which meant more added stress. Then the daughter calls wednesday nite to tell me that "nana" would not be able to watch the boys thursday and that did it for me. I proceeded to tell her that if I had to watch them thursday then they would not be spending the night that night and everything got quiet. We started talking and her hubby was afraid we were not going in a good direction but we kept our heads and ended the call on a good note. Although that call was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.
I want to be mom and ni-maw, for my kids and grandkids 24/7 but i realize that no one can live up to the expectations I put on myself. I was getting stressed and worn out. I told my daughter that I could not take up the slack any longer when nana had something else to do. Told her that I had raised my kids and had no intention of raising my grandkids. Told her that was her job and she only has a few short years with them until the school system takes over and they are grown. I have spent the past two years babysitting and it was wearing me down. I also proceeded to tell her that I was 55 not 26 like her. I did not have the stamina i had at a younger age. DO NOT GET ME WRONG HERE --no one could love those two little boys more than their "ni-maw", but I learned even i have my limits.
Enter--GUILT. I have been dealing with this all day, thoughts going around in my head thinking --well just suck it up and keep doing what you have been doing, or it's their responsibility now, not mine. Please realize I love my family and would do anything for them, but i was no good to them if i was not feeling right. I talked to her tonight and we are trying to decide the best thing. I am being totally honest with myself and her. They say "honesty is the best policy", but what they don't tell you is that it hurts like well............you know what :-/
I have prayed/cried/prayed/cried over this tonight because i don't want to leave them in a "pickle"...but on the other hand maybe they need to do something and i really wasn't helping by being so accommodating to their every call.
I told her that Ritzy and I would still love to have them spend the night every other friday or saturday but not on thursday. Thursdays were just too hard since Ritzy and the son have to get up for work the next day. The other two days/nights would be wonderful tho. Did I mention that I love those two little boys and they bring so much joy to my heart but dang it I get tired a lot faster than i used to.
It's gonna take a while to work thru the guilt, I guess that's normal tho. I only want what is best for my daughter and her family....
I also told her that I did not want to hear about every little argument that she and the hubby had. i told her I was here to listen if she needed me but that they needed to talk and work out their problems and I needed to know that they could accomplish that. I also told her that their children needed to see them work together to come to a solution to their differences.
Its time for me to back down a bit and let them figure things out and grow as a family. One of the hardest things as a parent to me is to let your child make mistakes. But on the other hand.......one of the greatest accomplishments as a parent is to see that your child can work thru difficulty without you. You can be assured that you have done your job right when this happens!!
With that, Ritzywife is out............................................
I have been so busy with those grandkids that I lose track of time, haha.....but that is a good thing to me. Since my last post I decided to give up my sunday school class because it was not going to be the best thing for me to continue to teach in a class where the ones who voted against me won't even look or talk to me at church. I am now going to the mixed adults class. The funny/sad thing about this is one of the members who was in on that voting complained at last week's business meeting that the ladies' class had no teacher. well...DUH!!!!! But she won't do anything about it ...for sure. The preacher said he was well aware of that. I guess she didn't think he knew.....Oh, he and everyone that was present that night knew-- because I sent each one of them a letter explaining how much it hurt to have a group of people want a secret ballot vote to take away my job and give it to one of their own. I told them that because of the way it was handled I had no choice but to give up my class because it was going to be very awkward teaching people who did not want to be taught by me. I also told them that even tho I had forgiven them - what they did changed our relationship and only time would heal that. I told them I loved them and i loved my church. I told the nominating committee chairman and our pastor what i was doing and why i was doing it.
I could go around feeling sorry for myself but I choose not to follow that path I have decided that people are gonna do what people are gonna do, but I have the power to control what I do and how I act. I choose to be happy and thankful for what I do have. And the "stress factor" that came with that job, although I loved the job, is now GONE!!!! I feel great!. And.........you could not pay me enough to take it back now, haha!!!! Plus I have extra time for those grandsons and crappie fishing...WOO-HOO!!! I am gonna just wait and see how God wants to use me for His service. So, as of now my only position in our church is Pianist.
That's right, most of my thoughts tonite are just a vent about what happened at church last nite. We were to have a vote on officers and teachers last October, but because of the Homecoming plans, our vote was put off till last nite. In a Baptist church where each church is it's own ruling body, a nominating committee is formed to ask people if they would like to retain their job for another year or for someone else to mention that they may be interested in the job. then we take a vote. well it seems for the last few months i have been getting a "vibe" that something was up. Turns out there were a couple of people wanting my and a friends job and they called their "group" together to make sure it was done. The first vote was for the SS Director, Church Treasurer, and Church Clerk. I am or i should say WAS the treasurer until last nite.
These people called for a secret ballot even tho the nominating commitee already asked me if i wanted to retain my job for another year to which i said "sure" cause I love doing the job, not for the people but because I love God and want to serve. Well the secret ballots were counted and I lost. There were only 18 voters there....we are a very small congregation and it is hard to find faithful people to serve. My friend kept her job as clerk by only 1 vote. She had told me she thought something was going to happen and I told her "well, there's nothing I can do about it. These people put only 1 name against mine so it was an arranged behind the back scheme. There have been other things said by this group the past few months to make us suspect they were going to try "something". When it came time to elect Teachers, this same crew made a motion to just accept them all as nominated. So that let me know they were after the Treasurer and Clerk job. Well they reached half their goal. Because of the way this "went down" I considered this a personal attack. If it had been out in the open, I would feel a lot different. SHAME ON THEM!! But you know something......you reap what you sow, more than you sow, and later than you sow!!!!
Our young pastor was pretty upset at how these people acted last night....so what does a person do now??? Act like it never happened.....not sure....but I sure been praying about it cause we are supposed to have a fellowship..haha..Saturday nite and church sunday. Gonna be kinda awkward. None of these people said a word to me after the meeting except for the one who took over the job. She asked if I would show her how to do the job---she has had this job before and gave it up cause it was more than she could handle---and I told her "no". Told her she could relearn how to do it just like I had to learn how to do it on my own. She will find out that I have been doing a LOT more than she ever did or ever thought about doing. These people have no idea how foolish they look doing their little deeds. You know, God will hold them accountable for their actions and..................I got the best night's sleep last nite that I have ever had. When I went to bed I didn't know if I was going to be too upset to sleep or not...I think I was still in shock that people who call themselves "Christians" could be so underhanded and conniving. An afterthought was that I should have requested a show of hands of the ones who voted against me for their accountability. Oh, and these are the ones who are just wanting a "social club" instead of a new testament church to come to. I am also the Ladies Sunday School Teacher and Pianist for this church and it's gonna be a bit awkward Sunday when some of these people are in my class. I spent the day getting all the materials together and taking them up to the church, then sent a text message to the "winner" to let her know she could pick them up. I also looked up all contact information she might need and printed it out so she could call and start having the church's mail delivered to her home. I did not have to do that, but I did. It's gonna be strange getting out of the "bill paying mode" for my church. I took this job over when my mom (then treasurer) had a stroke and could no longer do her job. She eventually got better and we looked for someone else to do the job but NOBODY wanted it cause it was too much work, so i stuck with it and was finally getting the hang of it....Besides I love working with numbers. Yes, it was very stressful each month getting that report ready and especially at the end of each year when I had to prepare all the tax information, but I loved doing it. Guess I will have to find something else to occupy my time------like fishing or playing with those two grandsons..huh??
That's what happens when I think about those grandsons. Yesterday I was at their house and calvin was stepping on a lid when his mama told him to stop or he would get a spanking. Let's just say she had to keep her word. Well he proceeded to go back to the lid, grinned and stepped on it again. I lost it----told the daughter i was sorry but it was soooo funny. ( in the fact that these little actions are my reward for having to deal with their mother as a child) Hahaha!!!! Well, She had to reinforce her word again. He was not happy and came to Ni - maw ( me ) I proceeded to tell him that he better do what mommy says. Well........Brady was watching all of this and what does he learn....apparently nothing.... cause he grins and proceeds to go and do the very same thing that got brother in trouble. And he gets the same punishment that brother got. Boy does she have her hands full. These two little boys have brought so much joy into this Ni - maw's life, hence the "title" to today's thoughts. Ritzy wife out..............
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Well, Ritzy has finally gone back to work. The celebration was a HUGE success.....thanks to all the hard work and time put in by everyone. We had a house full and people had a wonderful time and for some reason I seem to stay busy.
This week I am babysitting all week because the other "nana" is on a cruise. Gonna be tired at the end of this week for sure ;-)
Oklahoma is beautiful right now. The Fall colors are really starting to "pop" out. The drive across the lake is gorgeous. I was driving today and noticing the color change and was a little sad because it wasn't that long ago that everything was so green.
I have a full day tomorrow. Up early to be at the daughter's by 7:45am. Leave in afternoon and go to church tomorrow evening. Go back to the daughters Thursday and pick up the boys because they will be spending the night with Ritzy and me and I will take them home Friday. Looks like Friday evening or Saturday before Ritzywife gets any rest, haha! But........at least I will get that hour back this Saturday/Sunday that was lost in the Spring, woo hoo!!
The pecans are starting to drop, and we have some beauties this year for the first time since the December 2007 ice storm. The trees are loaded and the pecans are huge. Ritzywife is gonna have a freezer full of them.
I have a very early day tomorrow, so I guess that's all for now......Ritzywife out!!
Yep, that's right. Ritzywife is "ticked"...Yesterday Ritzy was sent home at 10:00 am until further notice thanks to the furloughs because congress can't get their business done. This is hurting a lot of people. Although we are concerned...... Ritzy and I know who our "Provider" is....... and it certainly isn't the U.S. Government!!
He has been catching up on his woodcutting and filling orders for the coming winter. I have been doing "business as usual" babysitting those precious grandsons. They are really starting to spit out the words. It is so cute to listen to them talk. I just nod and act like I know everything they are telling me ;-)
Geez the days sure get away from a person. I have been really busy. I am leading a committee at church to plan our "100 Year Anniversary" that will be celebrated on October 20th. We just about have everything taken care of and all those loose ends tied up.
I have really been enjoying the wonderful weather. I love sitting out in my swing in the evening as the sun sets........and that is getting earlier every nite.
I am really starting to feel the effects of a busy day, so I guess I will say....Ritzywife out...............