Posted by: cheryl

28 years ago on 09/09 at 9:04pm Ritzy and I were blessed with our 2nd child.  A baby girl.  Our son was a little over 2 1/2 yrs old.  I decided before this child was born that I was only going to have 2 children.  I knew that was my "limit" - haha!    We were so happy when we saw that this one was a little girl.  I could have known the sex of  the baby  before hand but decided to be "surprised".  The son looked so much like his dad that I thought that no one would ever believe this child had "indian blood" in his veins.  He was a towhead and light skinned and very handsome.   But.......when the daughter was born, she showed the indian side of the family.  I thought ok, I have at least one child that looks a little like me, haha!!   Years ago,  I knew that if I ever had a little girl that I was going to name her "KERI".  A friend of my parent's named their daughter that when I was about 15 or so and I fell in love with the name.  It was just spelled different.  I thought it was such a pretty name.  Well I got the chance when this little bundle came along...I just wasn't sure about her middle name.  Right up until the moment she was born she was gonna get my middle name "Ann"  but when they asked for her name I decided to give her my dad's middle name "Joe" without the "e".  I knew I had made the right choice - it just felt right....
I just can't believe that it has been 28 years ago.....WOW!!!!
In our mother/daughter relationship there have been great years, good years and not so good years but right now we are in a great place.  I try to tell her to enjoy these years while her boys are growing up because you blink and the time is gone......
All I have to say is "Happy Birthday Keri Jo, I love you!!!"....Mom
Ritzywife out............................................................


Posted by: cheryl

That is how I feel my summer has been.  Heck, that's how the past few years seem to have been.
Maybe it's because of my slowing down as I get older ...... that time seems to have sped up... Who knows??  Here is a picture of the grandsons.  They sure are growing and learning.  It is amazing and such a joy  to watch them learn new words and things to do.
Calvin & Braedy

Braedy & Calvin

Fall is about here.  Outside everything is starting to transition from the vibrant summer colors to the  warm fall colors.  Can't complain too much about the heat this summer.  It was not that bad.  But I have been hearing that according to the almanac and other sources that this winter could be a "dandy".  Colder and wetter than normal, whatever "normal" is here in Oklahoma, haha!!
The garden produced "ok" I guess.  We had onions, potatoes, tomatoes, cucumbers, okra, green beans, & squash.  I love eating the fresh veggies from the garden.  Not enough to can/preserve , but plenty to keep us fed.  
I have already been Christmas shopping.....the UPS guy was delivering the other day and I told him that a lot of what he was delivering was Christmas gifts....he told me that he wished everyone would do this cause it sure gets rough the few weeks leading up to Christmas ;-)
I  have the most important gifts bought - the ones for the grandkids, haha!
They are discovering Tonka trucks, John Deere tractors, power tools, etc....so.... a person can only imagine what this ni-maw got the them ;-)
It is so fun to watch them play.  They get a truck or toy that would make a motor sound and they start their "motor".  The daughter asked how in the world they knew how and when to make those noises and I told her that all boys do it.  I think it is in their genes, hehe!
My younger brother would sit in his room and play with his hot wheels cars and make all sorts of noises, so one of my sisters and I decided to "tape" him doing it one day.  We played it back and he was not amused, haha!!
I got the boys a Hot Wheels track to play with here.  They have played some, but it will see more action when the weather turns colder.  For now.....we spend all our time outside when they are here.  We all love being outdoors.  They have toy lawn mowers that they love pushing around the yard.  Ritzy has an old John Deere tractor that he had as a boy and they love getting on that thing.  They are just about big enough to pedal it.   They also have a sandbox under the big maple tree.  We just have to check for snakes each time we open it....ewwww.....  We have also hung 2 swings  (that they love swinging in)  from that old tree.  That tree has been here ever since I remember living in this house and it was big back then.
 This Friday is their night to spend the night with us. 
Sooo...I guess I better get rested up....guess that means Ritzywife out!!



Posted by: cheryl

Today.... July 30, 2014 .... marks 31 years that Ritzy and I have been married.  It has been a time of delight, sorrow, amazement, wonder, but mostly a time of loving God and  each other and being there for each other.
I cannot believe how  time seems to fly/drag by at different stages in life.  When Ritzy was still in the national guard and deployed in the homeland twice and overseas once....the time seemed to drag on and other times the time just flew.  Oh you don't necessarily notice it daily, but when you take a moment and think in terms of months or years...where did it go??
31 years ago Ritzy and I held our ceremony on  my Aunt & Uncle's covered patio.  I wanted a simple outdoor ceremony. They also lived next door which made it very convenient.. I had played the piano in several fancy church weddings and I was ready for something different.  My mom sang and I even played the piano for my own wedding.  I had "taped"  all the music on cassette (I am telling my age), and the ceremony was perfect.  I have seen where hundreds and sometimes thousands of dollars are spent on the dress alone.  We spent about $200 total on this wedding.  My dress was one I found in the Sears catalog with a cost of $25.00.  It was perfect for me.  It did and does not matter how much or little you spend,, what matters is your level of commitment to God and each other!!!  You have made a choice..now stick with it....and, I might add.....if your relationship with God is where it is supposed to be, then your relationship with your spouse will be where it needs to be!!!!
 It had been a hot July and this day was no different but about 2-3 hours before the ceremony a cold front came thru with a little bit of rain which cooled the temps down to where they were in the 70's.  God is so good!!!
 The blessings that have followed are:   a son, a daughter, a son-in-law and two precious grandsons!!!

Braedy & Calvin

Here is where the time is flying....these little boys are almost 2 1/2 years old.  They look so grown up.  I love spending time with them.  They love "Ni-maw's/Ritzywife's" house.  They always say---go to ni-maw's house????  and if I am over at their house....they, especially Braedy comes to me and says with such a serious look ---ni-maw no go home.  Melts my heart!!  But......as much as they love me, when Ritzy or "P-pa" is around, it's like Ritzywife is yesterday's news.  They do love Ritzy and love being around him.  He is always letting them just follow him around  and also taking them next door to the bait/convenience store to get ice cream.  The owner, who is a good friend of ours, told Ritzy when they were only a few months old to bring them over for ice cream anytime. They love it!!
Ritzy and I may not have much else to invest ......but we certainly have the time and love to invest in our kids and grandkids....... and  I believe those two things are the most important investments a person can make.    We all, especially children, have a desire to know that someone loves them and wants to spend time with them.
Ritzy........I love you and look forward to our future!!!!
Ritzywife out............................................................

Boy's First Haircut

Posted by: cheryl

Well the daughter finally did it.  She took Braedy & Calvin to get their first haircut.  They were 2 years old in February.  I must admit it did change their looks.  They now look like little boys instead of  babies/toddlers.  But...they are soooooo handsome!!!!!  Ni-maw thinks so anyway...
Here's a look:

                                                      Braedy & Calvin
They are growing up so fast.  It amazes me how much they pick up on and how much they know at only 2 years of age.  Their little minds are constantly going....that is until they crawl up into Ni-maw's lap and go to sleep.  And on that note.....as long as they still thinks it's "cool" to crawl up into this Ni-maw's lap... she is gonna let them ;-)
Today - June 6, 2014 -  is my Mom & Dad's 56th Anniversary.  I am so blessed to have them as parents and to have them here so long.  As a child and young adult I always prayed for them - that they would be able to live long enough to enjoy their retirement years.  They both worked hard to provide for us and raise us in a loving home, although we didn't really have any idea what that entailed until we got families of our own.   I'm not saying we didn't have differences sometimes but we always knew the love & support was there.  I believe that love and stability in a home is the most important thing a person can give their kids and grandkids.    To always know there is a safe place to be or go  is a both blessing and a need that we all have.
My fishing this year is not at all what I had hoped.  It was terrible.  I don't know if it was because the weather was not quite right or if the water level in the lake was lower than normal, but the crappie did not come up into the creek to spawn.  They are doing it in deeper water which means a boat is necessary to get to them.
I did catch a few (very few), most were given to me.  Just enough to have a couple of "messes" to fry up and eat.  They sure were delicious!!  Oh well, there's always next year.........But I have a brother that I can bum some off of.....maybe.... if I can get him to feel sorry for me,  (his oldest sister), haha!!
Well I guess that's about it for now... Ritzywife out.....................................

TIME - Why do you go by so fast?!?

Posted by: cheryl

I cannot believe how fast time seems to fly by.  I notice it's been a while since my last post.  Since then Ritzy and I have been busy in the garden, yard and spending time with grandsons.  I have been doing a little fishing.  This year has turned into a big disappointment as far as fishing goes.  The weather was slow to warm up and the lake has been lower than previous years so the fish just aren't coming in to the fishing hole.  I have only caught a half-dozen or so fish and that's sad.  Although one evening I was down there and I had not caught a single fish but came home with 22 nice crappie.  Some friends and family gave me 3-4 fish at a time and by the time 5 or 6 people gave me the fish they did not want to clean, I ended up with a nice "mess" of fish, take a look.............

 These two are growing up so fast.  They were holding hands and walking the other night.  At first one was not wanting to hold hands but he changed his mind and held "bubba's" hand. 

 Ritzy is watching Braedy & Calvin mow the grass.  They love pushing these little bubble mowers around.  Do not get in their way--they are on a mission while mowing Ni-maw's yard....

This is my favorite outside place to be.  In my swing watching and listening to the activity around me.  Time well spent  for "thinking" and just being "thankful".....

And with that being said........Ritzywife is out!!!!

WELL HELLO THERE 55............

Posted by: cheryl

54 it's been nice knowin ya.......
March 31, 1959 -- 55 years ago I was born.  Celebrated my birthday yesterday with family.  My sister-in-law took me out to eat at a mexican restaurant in claremore.  (did you know that mexican was probably my favorite food of all).  While dining the daughter texted me and told me they were coming out to fish.  i thought that was a good idea cause i would get to see the grandsons.  well later in the afternoon she texted me and told me they would be bringing out pizza.  Cool - Ritzywife doesn't have to cook on her birthday ;-)
Well they arrive and no pizza, she tells me the son is bringing it so i thought - OK......well when they arrived they let the two kids loose and here they came running as fast as those little short legs would carry them to ni-maw.  I loved it.  We stayed outside and enjoyed the warm evening watching the boys run all over the yard, play with their toys and get in the sandbox.  Also watched Ritzy grill our supper...He did an excellent job.  We had  steaks, veggies, salad, and cookies, cookie cake and Klondike bars.  YUMMY!!!!  Those steaks were heavenly.  We all ate till we were very satisfied.  Those two little ones have expensive taste.  They love steak!!!!
We all enjoyed the warm evening, shooting each other with nerf guns and dodging the boys shots.  It was one of the best birthdays Ritzywife has ever had.  We gave the boys their bath and before we knew it it was time for them to go home.  We said our goodbyes and came inside.  A wonderful end to a wonderful day!
Ritzy is taking me out to eat this friday afternoon.  Ritzywife is one blessed woman!!!
I have just finished reading "ONE THOUSAND GIFTS" by Ann Voskamp.  It shows me there is always something good to look for in our lives and circumstances.  A life changing book if we will let it be.  I am trying it anyways.  Writing down anything and everything I am thankful for or see as a "gift" from God.  It doesn't necessarily have to appear good to the "eye" to be considered "good" .  Truths I have heard all my life, but until I see it in action - it means nothing. 
Well, I want it to mean something in Ritzywife's life.  I want people to look at my life and wonder "what's up with her &  why is she so happy".......
With that Ritzywife is out........................................................

Grandparenting is HARD!!!!

Posted by: cheryl

Wow, I never thought I would be writing such a post.   I have learned one of the hardest parts of being a grandparent---saying NO and not feeling guilty about it.....
I guess it has been building for a while now and I just put it off.  Every Wednesday I would have to leave the house by 7:15 (which meant getting up at 6:15) and I would not return home til 4:30-5:00pm.  I then would have to be at church at 6:00 and not get home until 7:30 - 8:00pm.  Made for a L O N G day.  It got so I could not get to sleep on the night before because I was anticipating having to get up so early for such a long day.  I would get 4-5 hours of sleep and expect that to get me thru the next day.   This past wednesday I was exhausted.  Well I found out earlier in the week that the boy's other nana was going to be gone so I assumed I was going to have to take up the slack which meant more added stress.  Then the daughter calls wednesday nite to tell me that "nana" would not be able to watch the boys thursday and that did it for me.  I proceeded to tell her that if I had to watch them thursday then they would not be spending the night that night and everything got quiet.  We started talking and her hubby was afraid we were not going in a good direction but we kept our heads and ended the call on a good note.  Although that call was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.
 I want to be mom and ni-maw, for my kids and grandkids 24/7 but i realize that no one can live up to the expectations I put on myself.  I was getting stressed and worn out.  I told my daughter that I could not take up the slack any longer when nana had something else to do.  Told her that I had raised my kids and had no intention of raising my grandkids.  Told her that was her job and she only has a few short years with them until the school system takes over and they are grown.  I have spent the past two years babysitting and it was wearing me down.  I also proceeded to tell her that I was 55 not 26 like her.  I did not have the stamina i had at a younger age.  DO NOT GET ME WRONG HERE --no one could love those two little boys more than their "ni-maw", but I learned even i have my limits. 
Enter--GUILT.  I have been dealing with this all day, thoughts going around in my head thinking --well just suck it up and keep doing what you have been doing, or it's their responsibility now, not mine.  Please realize I love my family and would do anything for them, but i was no good to them if i was not feeling right.  I talked to her tonight and we are trying to decide the best thing.  I am being totally honest with myself and her.  They say "honesty is the best policy", but what they don't tell you is that it hurts like well............you know what :-/
I have prayed/cried/prayed/cried over this tonight because i don't want to leave them in a "pickle"...but on the other hand maybe they need to do something and i really wasn't helping by being so accommodating to their every call.
I told her that Ritzy and I would still love to have them spend the night every other friday or saturday but not on thursday.  Thursdays were just too hard since Ritzy and the son have to get up for work the next day.  The other two days/nights would be wonderful tho.  Did I mention that I love those two little boys and they bring so much joy to my heart but dang it I get tired a lot faster than i used to.
It's gonna take a while to work thru the guilt, I guess that's normal tho.  I only want what is best for my daughter and her family....
I also told her that I did not want to hear about every little argument that she and the hubby had.  i told her I was here to listen if she needed me but that they needed to talk and work out their problems and I needed to know that they could accomplish that.  I also told her that their children needed to see them work together to come to a solution to their differences.
Its time for me to back down a bit and let them figure things out and grow as a family.   One of the hardest things as a parent to me is to let your child make mistakes.  But on the other hand.......one of the greatest accomplishments as a parent is to see that your child can work thru difficulty without you.  You can be assured that you  have done your job right when this happens!!
With that, Ritzywife is out............................................